Is relying on the ‘launderette of mum and dad’ making our children less independent?
When does the role of a parent change? At what point do the roles and responsibilities alter so that your children are in charge of everything about their day-to-day lives?
A good sign might be ‘when they’re doing their own laundry’. Yet, if this is the case, new research from Beko suggests that mums and dads are still playing a key everyday role in the lives of their children well into their 20s and 30s.
While some of this can be explained by the difficulty of the housing ladder – especially here with eye-wateringly high prices in Essex and across many parts of the country at the moment – there are many other reasons why grown-up children, even those who have moved out, still expect mum and dad to handle their laundry
So, why do people still expect the ‘launderette of mum and dad’ to be open?
Beko’s survey respondents gave a number of reasons:
- They’re too busy to do it themselves
- They don’t want to ruin their clothes and aren’t sure how to avoid it
- They say that their mum ‘enjoys it’
- There’s just too much laundry to do
- Their previous load hasn’t dried and they’ve got nowhere to put it out
It’s perhaps only natural for parents to want to support their children when they’re struggling, but is this helping in the long run? Maybe, instead of doing it for them, it’s time for a life lesson. Why not work with them on a checklist of ‘things to know’? It could include:
- How to separate loads (especially lights, darks and colours)
- What to do with delicate fabrics
- When to use different settings on the washing machine, including different temperatures
- The importance of taking wet clothes out of the drum as soon as you can to avoid clothes starting to smell
- How to hang or fold items to minimise the need for ironing.
Hopefully, this can help your child to handle their own laundry and add another pillar of independence to their everyday routine. After all, you won’t always be able to help and whether it’s an interview, important meeting at work or a big night out, they’ll need their own ‘laundry game’ to be able to help them look smart.